Gentleman Hack – Let It Burn – How to Melt Candle Wax Evenly

At the beginning of the global COVID-19 pandemic, a significant number of my workforce were granted the privilege of remote work. So, in an effort to transform a room in my basement into a constructive work environment, I deployed various furnishings to create an inviting aesthetic. I thoughtfully procured wooden, rustic picture frames to complement the wood paneling of the room. I have a few ladder style bookshelves to house said wooden picture frames along with various books, artificial plants, and scented candles. During the last few years, I have come to love the smell of a fragrant candle. If experiencing an episode of tiresome stress, a great scented candle momentarily tethers me to a state of peace.

So much so, when Bed Bath & Beyond closed physical stores in 2023, and its Warm Flannel candle was discontinued, I was heartbroken. That sounds a little over the top – right? Nevertheless, that light and slightly sweet aroma had an incredibly calming effect that carried me through a few rough years. Sometimes when I was feeling slightly despondent, I would take a few moments, close my eyes, and just focus on the beauty of the scent. If but for a sliver in time, the aroma assuaged any ailments – either mentally or emotionally. Currently, Bed Bath & Beyond only has an online presence, but if the powers that be are reading this, bring back my Warm Flannel scented candle!

Now, given my affinity to scented candles, it would bother me when a candle would burn unevenly. I tried everything recommended to ensure the candle wax would burn evenly. I would trim the wick before the candle was lit and I would allow it to burn for 1-3 hours. However, tunneling and unsightly, lopsided candle wax would accumulate around the sides leading to wasted wax. Desperate, I scoured the Internet in search of a resolution. My probe led me to the curious practice of wrapping the candle with aluminum foil. The reasoning: The aluminum foil insulates the candle and reflects heat back toward the body of wax. The edges don’t cool as fast, and so in theory, there is a relatively equal burn across the candle’s surface.

Eager to see if this hack was real, I retrieved a torn sheet of Reynolds Wrap and intently fashioned an aluminum protective guard around the candle. And I’d be damned if the foil trick did not work? Of course, I took photographic evidence else no one would believe me. It looks rightly weird, an otherwise handsome candle jar adorned in Reynolds Wrap. With confusion, my wife questioned why my candle was wrapped in aluminum foil. Nevertheless, it extends the life of the candle with no wasted wax. It doesn’t take long to implement, and better still, you can reuse the foil for another candle! I hope this information is beneficial to a fellow candle lover – happy burning!

Living Your Best Life – Wisely Utilizing Time for Personal Growth & Development

Certainly, an idle mind can be the devil’s workshop. When a gentleman is not intentional or productive with his time, his mind may aimlessly drift into thoughts that lead into harmful vices, negative thoughts, or destructive actions. To be sure, time is a sacred commodity. And a gentleman should be a responsible steward of his time and focus. Devote your attention to matters that reinforce your purpose and add value to your life. The superficial cesspool of social media, sobering reality of current events, and general messy housekeeping of life can be draining and guide you down a toxic path. Instead, strive to connect yourself with the fruits of an abundant life and strong sense of self. The reward is more gratifying and fulfilling.

The plant pictured above was dying. My wife wanted to sentence it to a final resting place amongst our yard waste for weekly pickup. However, I wanted to challenge myself, and I was convinced that with a little attention and nurturing, it could thrive once again. Faint hues of green in the stems gave me a modicum of hope. So, I meticulously snipped away the dead parts and commenced the process of plant restoration. Two months into the Operation Lazarus has yielded beautiful results. Brown, decaying leaves have been replaced by healthy, vibrant green ones. When I pass it during my daily comings and goings, I am filled with a sense of pride and accomplishment Whether the task is large or small, I challenge you to occupy your time with a constructive task that presents both a challenge and reward. Give yourself purpose, utilize your time wisely, and focus on the best you.

Living Your Best Life – Choosing Peace Over Pandemonium

Sometimes when I drive to Planet Fitness, before I exit my vehicle with a punishing session of strength training awaiting, I slowly recline my seat and thoughtfully absorb the quiet. It is an unexpected serenity. Alone in vehicle’s cabin (a Kia Telluride), I may cue up the Sounds of Nature feature in the infotainment center – Rainy Day and Warm Fireplace are my favorites. Deep in my solitude, it has not been uncommon for me to fall into a gentle slumber. I quiet my mind and filter the noise of the bustling day. Sometimes I sit on my porch, gentle swaying frontward and backward in my rocking chair, as I treat my senses to the aromatic fragrance of my rose bush or playful color of my periwinkle. Family, friends, work, and life in general can silently clutter a gentleman’s mental and emotional space. Never hesitate to free yourself from that which anchors your spirit; offer yourself a much-needed respite from the confusion and chaos. And despite the thinly veiled or outright naked criticism, be unapologetic when guarding and defending your peace. Your well-being deservedly deserves better.

Living Your Best Life – Finding Beauty in a Broken Landscape

Hopefully, when a person has lived a requisite number of years gleaning wisdom from life; there should be an understanding that said life can be a masterpiece of flawed beauty. Our existence can be a perfect picture of imperfection filled with a complex compilation of uneven and damaging experiences. Life, sometimes stubbornly, does not proceed as planned. It can certainly be ugly out there. And yet along the broken landscape of our lives, beauty can spring from unfamiliar and unexpected places. Disrepair need not fuel disbelief or foster discontent. Be encouraged that the discovery and/or creation of something beautiful – even with less than desirable conditions – can positively affect and bring about joy to not only your life but perhaps someone else. Be the reason someone smiles today. Be blessed and be well. Talk to you later.

Living Your Best Life – Just a Slice of Happiness

This is my little slice of happiness – wrapping Christmas gifts. As I have grown older, wisdom has granted me the ability to understand that happiness, occasionally, requires intention. The simple act of intention allows you to specifically target areas in your life that afford joy and fulfillment. It is important to collect your thoughts to build a foundation for your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health. Your self-care definitely impacts your healthcare. Therefore, train your focus on activities that encourage a sense of reward, contentment, pride and personal development. One cannot be a mere spectator in the arena of happiness. To the contrary, one must be an active participant. Because, as much as we would love for happiness to be eagerly provided, sometimes, it must be actively sought. Recently, I wrapped a gift for my wife’s birthday. My children instantly recognized the wrapping and identified it as my work because I do the “best wrapped gifts”. That made me feel good inside. It felt good to know that what brings me joy has also left a joyful impression on my children. If you have not discovered what makes you happy; I strongly encourage you to look for it intently. And if you have discovered that slice of happiness for yourself; be greedy and go get some more!