The Standard #61

To be certain, the respectable gentleman embraces a core principle of accountability. Now, when defining accountability, we understand it to be ownership of one’s actions and its subsequent outcomes whether it is positive or negative. Moreover, we understand that it is easier to embrace positive outcomes; those are of course more rewarding. However, unfavorable consequences challenge a gentleman to address his imperfections, failures, and transgressions. The exercise can be profoundly uncomfortable, yet it is an exercise that must be performed, nonetheless. Fleeing accountability is not some newfangled, novel notion of neglect. However, it seems as if individuals are currently abdicating responsibility at a breakneck pace. When dealing with transgressions, an essential component of accountability is acknowledging one’s role in the matter and learning from it. However, wisdom and knowledge cannot be gleaned from a lesson if the student skips the test. For the constitution of his character is clearly conveyed through a crucible of courage confessing culpability and contrition. A gentleman does not project anger, redirect faults, or offer empty excuses for his conduct. A gentleman’s objective is clear: admission, apology, and assiduous atonement. Adopt those standards to become a better gentleman, and moreover, a better human being.

Daddy Diary – Keep Going – Ava Palmer

Our family has officially entered the era of continuous school events and/or recreational activities; it is never-ending cycle of hustle and bustle. Today, I wanted to share a highlight from one of those events – a poetry slam from my daughter’s school. Yes, this gentleman has gotten old. I vividly remember writing about her when she was born many, many years. Well, it seemingly feels that long. It has been long enough for her to discover my blog on the Internet and actually read about my documented adventures as a new father. I digress, she wrote many poems that were captured in her book of poems, but I thought this particular one captured her thoughtful and caring demeanor. I encourage her to write down her thoughts more often, but it is a constant battle with those pesky tablets. Ah, the joys of parenthood.

When things get rough, you have to toughen up
When you are sad, it is okay to cry
And sometimes find a quiet place to hide

When I lost my dog Lindsay
It was easy to say
Every day would never be the same

We had our moments, and that's okay
Every day is a new day
For the people that supported me - thank you

When she fell in front of me and went to sleep
I thought I would never play for another day

But Lindsay would want me to keep going
We love you Lindsay
You were great for all of your days

Living Your Best Life – Wisely Utilizing Time for Personal Growth & Development

Certainly, an idle mind can be the devil’s workshop. When a gentleman is not intentional or productive with his time, his mind may aimlessly drift into thoughts that lead into harmful vices, negative thoughts, or destructive actions. To be sure, time is a sacred commodity. And a gentleman should be a responsible steward of his time and focus. Devote your attention to matters that reinforce your purpose and add value to your life. The superficial cesspool of social media, sobering reality of current events, and general messy housekeeping of life can be draining and guide you down a toxic path. Instead, strive to connect yourself with the fruits of an abundant life and strong sense of self. The reward is more gratifying and fulfilling.

The plant pictured above was dying. My wife wanted to sentence it to a final resting place amongst our yard waste for weekly pickup. However, I wanted to challenge myself, and I was convinced that with a little attention and nurturing, it could thrive once again. Faint hues of green in the stems gave me a modicum of hope. So, I meticulously snipped away the dead parts and commenced the process of plant restoration. Two months into the Operation Lazarus has yielded beautiful results. Brown, decaying leaves have been replaced by healthy, vibrant green ones. When I pass it during my daily comings and goings, I am filled with a sense of pride and accomplishment Whether the task is large or small, I challenge you to occupy your time with a constructive task that presents both a challenge and reward. Give yourself purpose, utilize your time wisely, and focus on the best you.