A true gentleman comprehends that his image reaches far beyond his handsome sartorial exterior. Quietly residing underneath that charcoal wool 2-button single-breasted suit, there exists a gentleman who believes manners still matter. Manners are in such short supply nowadays that one cannot help but notice when they are on display. Recently, I decided to grab a post workout meal at a nearby Bob Evans. Upon checking out, I was greeted by a young gentleman who was more than pleased to ring me out. Now understand, I am at Bob Evans and not some expensive 5-star restaurant. However, everything the young man said was, “Yes sir…no sir…please sir…thank you sir…have a great day sir.”
Seriously, how many time have you encountered some young high school kid half asleep at the register as they mumble their words to you, as if you are getting on THEIR nerves? How many adults have behaved this way? No matter how elegant the clothes or what type of job you may possess, exemplary social etiquette never goes out of style. And although this young gentleman was in his Bob Evans gear, I can definitely see him moving up and out in the world. Simply because he understands the magnitude of treating people well. Making them feel appreciated. Making them feel important. Being courteous. Gentlemanly behavior? It goes a long way. Yes, it never goes out of style.
A gentleman must possess a total level of comfort with his individuality. If he is conservative by nature, his dress should reflect his personality. If he embraces a style that is utterly foreign to his demeanor, he will only be successful in looking uneasy in his own skin. Clean and simple does not mean boring. Your wardrobe should be sharply pressed. Fabrics should be of fine quality. Shoes should have a high polish. Your combination of clothes should be simple, yet project class and authority. The dark navy or charcoal suit. The black wingtip. The crisp white or blue dress shirt. Don’t underestimate the sophistication of the understated. Every gentleman should have a simple and tasteful outfit at his disposal. Besides, a gentleman’s occupation or lifestyle may not afford him the luxury of being a fashionable peacock anyway. Realize and dress accordingly.
Firmly standing upright under an unrelenting, blistering storm of vitriolic contempt and caustic distrust, the successful gentleman remains undeterred in his journey towards triumph. Triumph – born of an unwavering resolve and complete assurance in his abilities; this gentleman cannot be denied what he has tirelessly striven for. And despite ardent attempts to trivialize his work, undermine his legitimacy, or boldly question his intellect; ignorance and hatred will be trumped every time. Believe it. No amount of mockery can shake his confidence. He is resolute. He is intelligent. He is courageous. More importantly, he recognizes that there exists individuals consumed with hubris and guided by conceit, which ultimately hastens their downfall. So, he stays in his lane and does what he does best – win. Are you a winner?
The sharply styled, contemporary gentleman is fully cognizant of his immediate surroundings. He surveys the landscape around him and makes intelligent sartorial decisions. Once assigning himself to the notion that people do not notice what you are wearing, this gentleman has experienced a maturation process that speaks quite to the contrary. He is wiser and more seasoned now. He understands that people will take a snap mental inventory of his presentation. One’s appearance can be a subtle indicator of social status and character. Yes, your attire is a non-verbal form of communication; your clothes articulate a message and people readily listen.
Well, who comprises the audience that is so attentive observant? Your current or potential employer certainly notices. Man is not judged by resume alone. No. Sophisticated attire could be that extra 10 percent you require to differentiate yourself from the next applicant. In this economy, you might need it. Your first impression should be a lasting impression.
Speaking of impressions, observe your lovely lady’s eyes widen and the corners of her mouth curl into a sly smile when she sees your effortless elegance. Yes indeed, every woman loves a sharp dressed man; never underestimate that fact. Ponder the impression you leave on the youth and especially your own children when they absorb the gentleman’s confidence and class.
There is power in your presence, wield it wisely. Your peers even record mental notes. Please. Men are all about competition. Females usually take flack for their ritualistic judgment of each other, but do not be fooled; men want to bring sartorial A game to the table too. We are just a little more disguised with our attitude. We attempt to act like we don’t care, but we do. Employer. Spouse. Co-worker. Sibling. Son. Daughter. No matter the person, recognize that they recognize what your style articulates about you. Dignified. Confident. Masculine. Intelligent. Trustworthy. Definite characteristics the contemporary gentleman should exude.
A successful gentleman is also a determined and dedicated gentleman. Sure, there are a myriad of factors that will give rise to varying amounts of success. However, determination and dedication are two character traits that should not be ignored, nor should it be taken for granted. I am going to reveal something today that very few people know about The Gentlemen’s Standard. In the four years that I have been blogging and writing, I did so without the assistance of a laptop. That is correct. Only recently I was blessed with a laptop as a gift from my lovely wife. Now, this may not seem like a humongous deal to some, but blogging without the assistance of a laptop is, well, very difficult. Especially when attempting to sustain a pace that drives traffic and attracts a faithful audience.
So, how did I write all this time without one? I guess the old-fashioned way. I guess I am just an old-fashioned guy. I would write notes to myself pertaining to potential topics. I would memorize potential sentences in my head. I would e-mail myself material to use for future posts. I would then race home to my old desktop (roughly 15 years old) and stay up late cranking out material-sometimes to the chagrin of my wife.
So, it was only until last year that I secured a laptop to make my writing easier. Nevertheless, I am definitely proud of my achievements over the past few years, all without the benefits of a mobile computer. All I possessed was my determination and dedication, along with an old trusty desktop (did I mention slow) to help me along the way. Whatever a gentleman dreams he can do, he must summon the strength and will to bring it to fruition. You can do it. Have faith in God and have faith in yourself; you will be just fine. Determination. Dedication. Master both. I have no doubt you will.